There was a time when I believed Estë could only be found in the books written by J.R.R Tolkien, yet recent events have made me change my mind. I would like to share my experience with you, who knows, perhaps we will find that more than one member of the Valar dwells amongst, or perhaps within us.
Earlier this year I became very depressed, the reasons for this I prefer not to reveal, suffice to say I have a sad past and finally despite all the care of friends here and family members, it caught up with me.
I knew what was happening in the early stages at least, I’d been there before, but I was reluctant to admit I’d come full circle. I wanted to get better but I slipped further and further down. All the time I was slowly cutting the threads between myself and those about me until finally I felt completely isolated, unwanted and, well, the thoughts I had mirrored the despair I felt.
If people were trying to help, I was unable to respond to them. I’d become totally lost in my own world, and that was dark and cold and immensely sad. To be honest I had no idea I was so ill until I finally went to see my doctor and he signed me off work.. He put me on medication, sent me to talk to a counsellor.
Not much changed, I kept waiting, hoping the day would come when I would feel better, no matter how small the feeling, I wanted it. I kept taking the medications I was given, I kept going to the counselling, but I still felt ill and tired, basically I was just worn out and not wanting to face the rest of my life.
About this time I received a gift from a friend overseas, beautiful flowers, they were so pretty and I felt happy for the first time in almost six months, I knew then that I wanted to get well. Was this a message from Estë? It was a very kind thought, and Estë does have a garden, another coincidence perhaps was that the flowers were Stargazer Lilies. However, this was only the first sign of Estë’s presence in our world today.
I went to see my counsellor again, he suggested I take a self-esteem course. I was ready to try anything by then, the tablets stopped me feeling, but I wasn’t making any progress, perhaps this course would help to lead me out.
The first time I walked into the room, I was so nervous, maybe even scared. People would learn about me, what if they truly didn’t like me, what if I really was the person I thought I was. The first lesson was basically a get to know you session, there are seven members of the group, all of us have arrived by different routes, yet many of our experiences were the same.
The course is almost over now, next week is our last lesson, but I am ready, I have the answers I need now, I’m looking forward to many wonderful things.
So I hear you ask what of Estë, did she magically appear, is she the person who takes the session? The self-esteem course has led me to find Estë, I have found her in many places, in the other members of the group, in friends, in my boss, in family, but also within me. I didn’t expect to find her there!
She was in the words on the board that explained why low self-esteem occurs. She was in the wisdom that helped me understand what my triggers are. She is in the friendships I have made, both new and old. She was in the message that said ‘I hope you are feeling better’.
She’s the voice that speaks calmly to me at times when I feel panicked. She tells me my fears are part of my past, that I can’t help what happened then, that it’s time to move on, she’s the one who, when I sit down to write my positive log each day, counsels me to turn small things into success; for example, if I talk to my neighbour, I am being friendly and open, or if I get to work on time, I am being reliable.
Slowly I am stepping back into the world, finding again the friends I lost when I was ill. They never left me, I just couldn’t see they were there. Now thanks to Estë I am finding them again and that is truly magical.
by Happy_Hobbit