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EthelynnGreenleaf
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on: May 22, 2013 07:43
How many of you have the same problem I have???... friends.. you can post advice and issues, I'm always here to listen
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on: May 22, 2013 08:17
Oh gosh! Wow! Yeah i think everyone does. My 'friends' here are sometimes judgmental of my clothes, likes, etc. But I try to be nice to them in the best way possible. But sometimes the golden rule (treat others as you want to be treated) doesnt always work! for example, we were having our homeschool field day about a week ago. a girl named hannah was being quite rude! we were standing on the teeter totter and she came over and said, " Dont stand on that! It is not it's purpose!" it is not her's though, but park property. we just said Ok and just kept going. i accidentally left my shoes in the way of the races and i went to get it. she didnt see me getting them and said, " Go move your shoes or i will!" I said Ok, i already moved them. so, anyway, she was doing this the whole time!!! for like 3 hours! it was very hard to deal with and sometimes my friend Mayme and i wanted to strangle her! ok not really, but i think u get my point. so tips: always be nice and try to be understanding. if they are being ride or mean to you, think of the rot of the problem. maybe their mom or dad are having troubles in their relationship. maybe they are fighting with siblings. most of the time, there is a reason.
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on: May 22, 2013 11:32
You're totally right, Legolas23, and I know EXACTLY how you feel People are just plain STUPID!!! It's just a fact of life :/ But, we must learn to deal with them!!!!
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on: May 22, 2013 03:28
Share da luv! lol And sometimes, they dont even know what they are doing. Some people i know, that comment on my clothes or interests, dont see it as being judgmental or rude. they see it as something that is wrong and want to help me. but the thing is, it is really not their business! And another tip! dont try to be like them! Be your own person! even if they dont like it for a bit, or permanently, others and possibly them in the future will respect you for it. BE YOUR SELF!!!!! Everyone else is taken!
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on: May 22, 2013 07:39
Well, this is an interesting thread. There are friends and there are acquaintances. Big difference. A friend is someone who isn't judgmental and yet will try to help you as much as possible, be there as a sympathetic ear when you need it. An acquaintance is someone you know superficially and really doesn't understand you. Most people in school are NOT friends, they are acquaintances so you can't expect them to be sensitive to things that bug you.

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on: May 23, 2013 09:09
I agree, Belle! Sometimes we consider lots of people in school to be our "friends" when they really aren't or don't act like true friends. I think sometimes we trust them with a bit too much information about ourselves so when we have an argument with our "friends," they have lots of rumors to spread about us. But I know you better, Ethelynn. I know that you have been friends with these people for years, in and out of school. I hate to see what you are going through with them, and I hate how they are making you feel now. But maybe this is a test to show you that these are some of the people you need to leave behind since they are treating you this way. I know you feel responsible for them, and that's caring of you, but they are in control of themselves, and you are NOT to blame for their hard times. Just take it one day at a time, and have patience and be kind. And be persistent, too. Show them you're there for them and want to make it through this as friends if they really are your true friends. The true friends will stick by you, and you'll soon find out who they are.
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on: May 23, 2013 12:40
AHHH! it deleted my post or something! i said that i agreed with Belle! an example of an acuantanse is this! a girl i know came up to me one day when i was playing rangers or something with the boys (because all the girls do is talk about having fifteen million kids and not having jobs! yeah....) and she said, " so you are tomboy?" i said yes. " well when i was your age, i was too until i perfected the errors of my ways and was reminded that since i am a girl, it is wrong," so! i dont care! lol i said ok and kept playing. btw, she is like 13. so when i was your age was like a year ago! lol oh boy....
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on: May 24, 2013 11:36
Belle, you are so right. Sometimes people have trouble telling who are friends are who are acquaintances. Lotrelessar, thanks.. it's true... And i try, but it's tougher then you think. It's tough to drop the friends you've had for SO many years. But maybe they're just NOT worth it anymore. I hate that people change. But, that's life. Mind as well take the time to search for the one's that matter.
Some people are gonna be dumb. you just gotta ignore them. They're gonna put up walls to hold us being from being who we're meant to be. Just be you and keep moving on.
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on: May 24, 2013 02:40
You said it!
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on: May 25, 2013 12:20
Thanks Legolas23
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on: May 28, 2013 12:47
I think one of the main problems with friends is that people dont realize that people change.
We were one in the same, running like moths to the flame. You'd hang on every word I'd say, but now they only ricochet.
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on: May 29, 2013 09:29
Very true, but it happens. Sometimes we cannot except the fact that they're different, you wish you could go back to the past, but you cant.
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on: June 03, 2013 01:20
and the people don;t accept that fact, either:/
We were one in the same, running like moths to the flame. You'd hang on every word I'd say, but now they only ricochet.
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on: June 03, 2013 06:29
All of us change, but when you have a Best Friend, you weather the changes together. I met my Best Friend, Kathy, when I was 7 years old. We became instant Best Friends and remained that way for 25 years. Three years ago, she died. I will never again have a friend like her and I will miss her every day for the rest of my days.
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on: June 04, 2013 10:44
Aw, I'm so sorry, Lin That's terrible. i thought just losing a friend in general was bad, but losing them for real is worse. But I know what you mean. I hope to have a friend for that long like you did Till death do us part
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on: June 04, 2013 08:52
Funny you said "Till death do us part"....we used to joke about how our friendship lasted longer than most people are married.
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on: June 07, 2013 07:08
also, some people you think were your friend are not. i have just stopped talking to some people i know through email because either they never reply or when they do, they say something about how they disagree. i dont live for people to judge me. so when one girl said my shorts were too short (when they weren't in out family! but one they dont really wear pants and no shorts and their shortest length is below knee cap)i wrote her an email asking her not to make comments on my clothes. if people you know keep judging you, tell them to stop! enough is enough. but do it kindly!
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on: June 08, 2013 12:02
Im so sorry Lin I too had two friends who died a year ago around this time. One was my grandmother, who I still consider one of my best friends. Her death shook me so much becasue she was my closest family member. The other was my friend Mitch. He and some of my other guys friends were swimming in a creek around our neighborhood. Another boy fell in and couldn;t get out, so Mitch jumped in to save him. Mitch hit his head and was knocked unconcious. HE was rescued and remained in critical condition for two daysm, then his lungs collapsed, and he died...
We were one in the same, running like moths to the flame. You'd hang on every word I'd say, but now they only ricochet.
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on: June 15, 2013 09:11
I am so sorry findemaxam48. it is hard to lose a friend. i lost my friend from our old church named Sue several years ago. my friend kayleigh, her and i would call each other 'brats'. it was a huge joke of course, but she called me brat #1 and kayleigh brat #2. this went on for, well, maybe 4 years. we moved and she died of a stroke i think. then our neighbor Hobert died, well in dec. it will be two years ago. but the good thing is that they are in no more pain anymore. they are without Savoir.
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on: June 15, 2013 11:30
I'm sorry to all of you that have lost your friends. *hugs all around*

Since we are into sharing sad friend stories...there was this guy named Larry in my homeschool group. I didn't really know him, but I knew who he was. Anyway, he was killed in a car accident in March of this year. Another girl that was also in the wreck was really hurt, and they weren't even sure if she would make it. She's doing at lot better now, praise God, but after the wreck she had be hospitalized for eighteen days, and she had wear a neck halo for three months. She just recently got it off. There were others in the wreck, but they weren't hurt badly. Like I said, I didn't even know Larry, but his death still shocked me. My brother had a really hard time with it. The night we found out was horrible. I don't know how long my brother's heartbroken sobs lasted, but I do know I couldn't stand to hear them and be able to do nothing about it.

But, thanks to God's healing, we are all doing much better now.

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on: June 17, 2013 10:41
Praise the Lord that the ones who were sick or hurt badly are no longer suffering...
We were one in the same, running like moths to the flame. You'd hang on every word I'd say, but now they only ricochet.
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on: June 17, 2013 04:39
Yes. I'm just so thankful it looks like Larry was a Christian. If he was, he doesn't have any pain, he's got no worries, and he gets to spend an eternity with God. For my part, I can't wait to get to Heaven.
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on: June 18, 2013 08:36
Wow, i'm afraid I don't have any sad friend stories that i can think of at the moment, but it's great to see you all encouraging each other! *Group hug*
You all are awesome friends, even if I never meet some of you (but I hope someday I will). It will be when I win the lottery and I pay for all of us to go take a Hobbit tour in New Zealand
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on: June 18, 2013 11:02
Can't wait, lotrelessar!

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on: June 19, 2013 09:53
Take me! Take me! Even though we see each other every week! Take me!
We were one in the same, running like moths to the flame. You'd hang on every word I'd say, but now they only ricochet.
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on: June 22, 2013 03:45
i know this is random, but has anyone here been to a LOTR convention?
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on: June 23, 2013 12:27
Nope
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on: June 25, 2013 08:41
Do u think they will have Hobbit conventions? I do hoe so!
OK, so something along the line of 'friends' now.So i am going to be in this parade in a few days. Its run by one of the families in our co-op who have the most kids! lol 10 kids, is the number. Anyway, so they are against pants and LOTR and basically everything about me! lol so their suggestions for this parade for all the girls to be princesses and pioneer girls. And that mean,,,NO PANTS! so i was like no way and i am going to be tauriel. i have an awesome costume. lol. so anyway. i feel really limited in our home school group. everyone is so judgmental and they can't just except you for who you are. you have to have their same mind set.
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on: June 28, 2013 11:53
I can know from experience how limited home schoolers can be. Some of my friends were home schoolers and they had trouble with that as well! It's harder to make friends because you don't see people as much as public schoolers do.
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on: June 28, 2013 01:45
So you've got to be a pioneer girl eh Leg? Hmm. Some research might help, after all you're going to have to present evidence eh? Here's something to be going on with.

Women of the Wild West
Wild West Women
Women in the West
Cathy Williams

Plenty more where that came from. The image of the pioneer woman comes mainly from pulp novels and movies. The truth will out. On the other hand you could just join in and humour them, gingham and apple pies. Just have fun.

Ethelynn, good point. The only reason we didn't home school our son was the socialising aspect. It's a lot harder to get on with people if you haven't had the practice in school.
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on: June 28, 2013 02:35
Actually, it depends on the homeschooler as to how they respond to other people. Even though we are being homeschooled and we don't go out much it isn't very hard for us to make friends, especially living in the South where you can start talking to any random person and nobody thinks it's weird. And the public schoolers that I have known have been a lot less friendly and open about themselves. Well, not all of them. Just most of them. They kinda acted like my sibs and I were from another planet. Now, of course I'm not saying all public schoolers do that, just some of them that I have met.
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on: June 29, 2013 09:32
Oh, and my sister reminded me that we have some friends (that are homeschooled) and their dad is a pilot. They have been pretty much all over the world. So yeah, like I mentioned, it really just depends on the homeschool family.
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on: June 29, 2013 01:07
I don't know, it really depends. I know a girl who transferred from home school to public school and was fine for a year. But then in 8th grade, she started to spiral down and began doing drugs and other negative behaviors because she said she had a jard time fitting in. It really depends on the personality of someone.
And Legolas23, in the parade, you just be you! There is no one better
We were one in the same, running like moths to the flame. You'd hang on every word I'd say, but now they only ricochet.
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on: July 02, 2013 08:46
Yeah, that's right Findemaxam. That's so true.
But about friends, I've had a lot of friend issues lately. I've been losing them, and it stinks. I feel like it's probably for the best, but I hate the reminder that's I'm alone. I think maybe it's best that I let them go and this is the moving on part in my life. but... it's just hard you know?? And I've ended a 7 year friendship with one of my best friends...... And then one of my other friends has some issues and I don't know how to tell her, because I'm starting to get really annoyed :/
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on: July 02, 2013 11:07
EthelynnGreenleaf, I know exactly how you feel. I have a "friend" that I have known less than a year but when we met it was instant fun and laughter. We talked about everything and confided in each other. Then one day, it was over and I was like "what is going on?" No more joking no more talking...just over. I try to think if I have done something wrong, blaming myself. We still talk, once in a while, but it is strained and sad now. I will always be this person's friend, no matter what. This person might need me one day. But it hurts and it is hard to let go. You just have to move on and meet more people and be careful who you call "friend." Be your own best friend. I am glad I like myself...
My destiny is riding again, rolling in the rain, unwinding in the wind. My destiny is fighting again, secretly unwinding..what it was I was supposed to say...to say to you today.
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